"Chain of Fools" Debra Rose (Click to play)
They say, "You can't make a living making music. You need to go to New York to be successful. You’re too old. You should find yourself a nice teaching job."
I don't know who they is, but statements like these have made many people give in, give out, or give up. I let them go in one ear, and out the other (as my mom used to say), because these statements are not meant for me. You see, people can say whatever they want, but you don't have to let their words shape who you are.
Ever since I can remember, I've walked to the beat of a different drum, and I've done things in my own unique way. Truth is, I've always been a late bloomer, and have always had many interests, so it took me a while to get around to this music thing. I returned to school to pursue a degree in music in my early forties, and believe me, I had my fill of the above statements.
See, they're only myths -- unless you let yourself believe them!
Myth #1: You can't make a living making music.
My professional music career began back in the disco era with a show band. We toured the US and Europe, and were on the road 40 weeks per year. (Don't judge the photos...it was the '80s!)
Since then, I've had a successful duo that toured the country club circuit, and have entertained at corporate events, private parties, night clubs, cabarets, churches, and of course, musical theater and opera.
If you have something you want to do, and the opportunity doesn't exist, create the opportunity. I started Healing Melodies nearly twenty years ago to fill my desire to help people through my music. I know the amazing healing powers of music first hand, and have been able to build a business around it.
Myth #2: You need to go to New York to be successful.
I used to think that I was stuck in my small town of Oberlin, Ohio. I now realize that I'm a small-town girl at heart, and would not survive in a concrete jungle like New York. Don't get me wrong, I love to visit there, but I also love coming back to my Oberlin roots, with its rich history and liberal arts environment.
I also realize that the idea of success is subjective. I've never desired the "star" life that some people envision for me. I'd rather live life on my own terms. Believe me, I had my taste of the fast lane back in the 80s, and realized that I'm perfectly content cruising at my own speed.
Success to me, is doing what you love, sharing your God-given gifts, and having peace of mind that cannot be achieved through drugs, alcohol, or other substances. That is the success that I enjoy.
Myth #3: You're too old.
Having recently earned my second degree in IT at the age of 58, I believe that the second half of my life will be even more exciting than my first. I've never let my age hold me back. You shouldn't either. If you have a dream, and you have the health and energy to do it, go ahead and follow your dream. It's never too late to start something new. Age has nothing to do with it!
Myth #4: You should find yourself a nice teaching job.
I've never imagined myself sitting behind a desk year after year, and I've never imagined myself doing only one thing for the rest of my life. I've never wanted to work a job. I've been blessed to be able to make a living doing what I love, and I don't think of it as a job.
I must confess that I am a natural teacher, and have been afforded the opportunity to teach others what I've learned in non-conventional ways. One way is through directing and acting in plays at various local venues, including roles right here in Oberlin where I'm planted, with Oberlin Summer Theater Festival.
Other ways are through writing, workshops, lecturing, keynote speaking and art instruction.
So, I realized that I'm not stuck in a small town, I'm positioned. I'm blooming where I'm planted, and invite you to discover the many petals of Debra Rose. As you browse this site, you'll see what I've been up to, and various ways to connect with me.
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Looking forward to connecting with you!